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Visit my web site: CateMackenzie.com Newsletter Loving the Masculine
Me and my beloved Father I sincerely hope you are well and happy, feeling the love and that bliss is a regular part of your life. I hope your dreams are coming true and that you have the ability to be present in your life and appreciate what is there. In this newsletter I wanted to focus on something I am learning a lot about and that is loving Masculine Energy.In this last year I have been learning a lot about masculine energy and how to father myself and my projects. For me masculine energy is the energy ofd the father, the brother and the uncle. It is the energy of boundaries, of edges, of being able to focus and set limits. I feel this learning has helped me grow in my work and what I do and I am learning a lot from men and masculine teachers. In fact I have recently come back from the wonderful www.cortijo-romero.co.uk in Spain where I taught “Letting Love in” alongside the fantastic singing teacher Phill Haiselden and it was a good experience of sharing teaching space with a man. Interestingly my sister Georgia Mackenzie is currently in a play in the www.kingsheadtheatre.org in Islington called “Timing” by Alistair McGowan which looks at fatherhood and the choices involved in it for men (as well as the voice over industry).
It is on till 8th November 09 and it is very touching and very funny. She is often in plays which reflect aspects of my life of what I am doing or what I am looking at like being a teacher in a deprived area or working abroad with people or looking at love. Also I am starting a coaching group on Wednesdays at www.alchemythecentre.co.uk, price £12, time 4.30-5.45pm. Email me if you are interested and I am in Birmingham at www.naturalhealthshows.co.uk doing a talk 1-1.45pm. I have two workshops in London coming up on Opening the heart on 22nd Nov and 13th Dec £70 each (concessions available). Also on 20th Nov there is a lovely free open evening at The Bromley By Bow Centre www.bbbc.org.uk where you can see all the artists in their studios and buy very reasonably priced arts (I teach Heart Dance at this centre on Thursday mornings). There will be food and music and an auction! And I am at www.thegrangebythesea.com from 24th Dec to 27th Dec 09 teaching dance, coaching and working with the lovely John Harris who will be teaching yoga, salsa and coaching. Forgiveness Also I went to the House of Commons a week ago and saw Jo Berry and Pat Magee speak.
Simon Hughes MP, Jo Berry, Pat Magee Jo Berry is the daughter of Sir Anthony Berry who was killed in the Brighton Bombing in 1984. Pat Magee was the IRA bomber who killed her father. They now work together towards reconciliation and conflict resolution www.theforgivenessproject.com . It was an incredible evening to be in the House of Commons with people talking about mediation, listening skills, emotional intelligence, conflict resolution and love. Jo Berry was beautiful and clear and impressive and full of honouring and love and respect for her situation and Pats. Pat Magee said he felt he would always turn up for Jo and that he must do so and that he was sorry to have killed her father, and it somehow seemed to me that he was offering her a form of masculine love, of service because it was the right thing to do to repair what he had done (though of course he can never undo the killing of her father but he can turn up for her though he may wish to stay at home).
Me and Jo Berry But Pat also explained that people in Northern Ireland 25 years ago felt as if they had no option but violence in order to be heard. He said that now things are very different and there are systems in place to make sure voices are heard and he works with others in schools to help people celebrate difference. I felt great hope from seeing and meeting them. Simon Hughes MP, the chair, came and spoke to me afterwards and said he was interested in community and communication and that I should come and talk with him which I hope to do (I asked a question about community, communication and empowering people and love of course). I have a dream to work with Politicians and their hearts and maybe this is not far off! Who knows!
Me and Simon Hughes MP Loving the masculine
Me and my mum and dad I wanted to talk about loving the masculine because this is an energy I have been working with for the last year. If anything I write does not fit your views please take what you like and leave the rest. I did tell my lovely Step Mother Linda what I was writing about the masculine and she felt the attributes I was talking about were pretty feminine so I know that each person can feel differently (and I think that my Step Mother has a very good balance of masculine and feminine qualities, creating meals for all of us to get together and also being able to handle a computor brilliantly). But what I can do is talk from my perspective and you can see what you think or feel. I believe we all have a masculine side and a feminine side and some people are more masculine and some are more feminine. Often women are more feminine and men more masculine but this is not always the case it depends on the person. For me I have felt and still feel a very feminine person, I am very curvy and small, I study love and relationship and like to say “yes” to many things (which is like the feminine energy of being open to everything, the masculine energy can be more discerning and checking things out before saying yes), my practice is one of learning about unconditional love. Since last year I have been learning more about structure, focus, protection, boundaries, limits, technology, contracts, confirming contracts and negotiation. For me this has been an incredible learning curve and one that I have found difficult but also one that I am relishing. I have been tuning into my masculine side and found that it was not very developed and that I needed to help it grow into a mature man. This masculine part of me is helping me to have edges, structure, shape and boundaries which in turn helps me to feel safer in the world and able to do more. You can do this too, you can tune into yourself and connect with your masculine side (or feminine side) and see how developed it is. If you are more masculine imagine you have a feminine body (with curves and breasts) and imagine what it would be like to be softer and more sensitive and more feeling. If you are more feminine imagine what it would be like to have a masculine body (with harder edges and a penis) and imagine feeling stronger and safer in the world. See how old or how mature each part of you is and see if you can help them grow through imagining them and strengthening them. I tuned into my masculine side and I had a man inside me who was slumped or bent over so I thought I had better help him to grow bigger and stand up. My Dad
My dad with Ronnie Biggs 1974 I grew up with a wonderful father who was a Foreign Correspondent so he was regularly living abroad and I missed having my father around a lot. He lived in places like New York (covering Watergate), Turkey and Brazil (as the jounalist who found and interviewed Ronnie Biggs). To me he was, and still is, a bit of James Bond character always dashing, always handsome (with women melting near him) and always off on the scent of a new adventure. His own father lived in Brazil while my father grew up here and his Grandfather was a sea Captain so the men in my father’s line were mainly away from their children and their families. My father was away a lot but when he was around he gave me great gifts and taught me many things and it has been very helpful to become aware of all this and that even having a father who had such an adventurous spirit has encouraged me to be like this too.
My Mum and Dad's wedding 1968
My Dad's parents Douglas Gordon Mackenzie and Hazel Adair wedding 1940
Lessons from my father When my father was around he encouraged me by giving me vocal lessons to improve my voice, he taught me how to shake hands properly (warmly and not too firmly with good eye contact) and how to hold back when others were around. He encouraged me to talk about history and politics and to engage in debate wherever possible and he taught me to ask good questions of others. He was ambitious for me and wanted me to achieve great things and to be able to compete with men in a man’s world. I was thrilled at this idea that my father believed in me so much when I was a child but after my parents split up I lost my confidence and could not believe I could compete with men. I also received too much inappropriate attention from men as a child and I became frightened of men and the masculine world. Also my father had friends who would shout at their wives or tell them to “Shut up” at the table and I found them scary. I chose to work in the very soft feminine worlds of community arts and the mind body spirit field. However since I am regaining my masculine side I am starting to become more confident about speaking in public. I am also learning that there are men who are safe and men who are unsafe and situations that are the right ones to be in and speak in. What I have to do and is to be aware and understand the differences. Speaking out I want to connect my internal world with the external world and I want to be bold and speak my truth in ways that I may be able to be heard. Learning how to speak clearly is an art form that I am embracing and learning about. Before this year I felt that I may not make sense to the mainstream and that my interest in Love and relationships was not of interest to business people and politicians. I now feel very differently. I have found out that the key to work and life is relationships and being able to connect with people properly. Many people lose their jobs not because they are not good but because they cannot relate to others. World Shift When I went to the www.worldshift2012.org event at the British Museum the message was that the only way the earth can be saved ecologically, economically and socially is through togetherness, sharing resources and communicating with each other and if we don’t do this then we may be in real trouble. So amazingly I feel I am in the right time to be me! I feel that the things I am interested in are relevant and important to the times we are in and I am in my time! I feel thrilled and as I learn from wonderfully skilled male and masculine teachers how to be safe, secure and confident in the world I can dare to be me and follow my truth. Masculine teachers The teachers I have been learning about masculine energy from are S.N. Goenka http://www.dipa.dhamma.org/ (the beautiful Vipassana meditation), Peter Grunwald www.eyebody.com (developing a strong vision), John Harris www.morethanadance.com (family constellation, systemic work from Bert Hellinger), www.stevenobel.com (helping to vision your best future and clear your blocks), www.drhelenford.co.uk (understanding the masculine and the feminine) and Silke Zhiel opencentre.com (boundaries, sexuality and the heart). I also have great mentors Peter York, Me and Peter York www.davidolsan.com, Michael Day, Timuchin Dindjer and Mark Conroy and my lovely Uncle Jonny who give me wise counsel.
Me in an army outfit given to me by my Uncle Jonny who tried to encourage my masculine side! My beautiful father is an ally and a mentor. I realise that the things he taught me while growing up were relationship skills of how to relate well to others and he has given me what I need to connect with the mainstream and the world of politics. Because he is a journalist he has encouraged me to be able to connect with anyone and everyone and that the worlds of politics and power belong to me as much as anyone else. He reads my book proposals and corrects them and is interested in what I am doing and where I am going. Now I am releasing my fear of masculine power and owning it for myself I can inherit the gifts from my father and his blessings. I also have now many male and masculine mentors and teachers helping me to grow in confidence and allow my internal understandings become external communications. If you wish you to grow your masculine side to you then you can do this by calling on masculine help (this is not always through men, some women have excellent masculine energy too). I write this to wish you love and to encourage you to be bold in what you do, to express your truth and find your freedom. With much love Cate
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I'm not sure words can adequately express how blessed I feel and how grateful I am, for all your wonderful support and your big, warm heart. I just wanted let you know how much I appreciate what you do and your loving presence.
We are all very lucky to have you!
Tips to Opening Your Heart to loving the masculine
2 What do you love about men or masculine people? 3 If you are very feminine, imagine you are a man and have the physical body of a man and how this would change how you feel. Imagine taking up more space with your body and feeling strong and safe in the world. 4 What do you love about fathers or fathering or your own father? Can you connect with an energy that loves, protects and takes care of you? What do you love about Brothers or uncles or male friends? Do you need more positive male energy in your life? 5 Be open to receiving positive masculine energy through mentors, friends, masculine actions (such as building roads and buildings). 7 Imagine loving men and what they give and do. 6 Send loving thoughts to masculine people. Praise men and tell them what a good job they are doing! 7 Develop a daily discipline such as meditating or exercising every day no matter how you feel. 8 Learn how to say No. 9 Learn what your limits are. 10 Contemplate death and see how it makes you feel about life. What do you need to let go of in order to really live? 11 If you were to die tomorrow what decisions would you want to make, what things would you want to say, what freedom would you give yourself? 12 What do you need to do to clear out of your space, your home, your body? Listen here to Divine Union with Masculine and Feminine meditation (8 min) Coaching How about going for some elite life coaching. Six to twelve sessions to connect to your authentic self, to feel more confident, more loving and to create the life of your dreams. £60 per session. Change takes time and commitment but what you give energy to will grow! I see people flourish grow their dreams, create businesses. partnerships and relationships as they commit to themselves and what they want. If you are prepared to make that commitment why not come and see me for an initial appointment and see what you can improve in your life! " My inspiring sessions with Cate are fast tracking my life goals in the direction I want to go! It is a magical, inspiring, fun and always highly beneficial process moving me in leaps and bounds." Charlotte, beauty therapist and holistic business owner NEXT WORKSHOP DATES: "Coaching Group in Alchemy" Wednesdays 16:30-17:45, price: £12, from mid Novemberalchemythecentre.co.uk
8th Nov 09 www.naturalhealthshow 1pm talk in Birmingham 22nd Nov Open Your Heart £70 London www.catemackenzie.com 13th Dec Open Your Heart £70 London www.catemackenzie.com 24th-27th Dec 09 I am also teaching at www.thegrangebythesea.com at Christmas with the wonderful John Harris. Quick Links: Me, my Dad and my sisters
My Dad as a little boy
My Dad as a teenager
My Dad aged 21
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My sister Georgia
My Dad's Grandparent's wedding George Mackenzie and Elsie Garnett 1905
